Everything Deserves A Second Chance, Even Love

I recently read a short but powerful article written by Leila Guierriero, the core of which spoke to me very strongly: Love ends, and when it does it tears us apart, but in time, we must heal and try again. We have to give love a second chance.

We associate the pain of an emotional blow with the pain of a fall because it makes us collapse, hurts, throws us off balance, and makes us think we’ve lost all our strength. That’s why failures, mistakes, and setbacks scare us so much. Suddenly we’re sitting there with all these open wounds, and only we can stitch them up.

However, everything deserves a second chance, and love is no exception. It’s not the fall that makes you suffer, it’s that you lie defeated on the ground. You can and must wipe the dust, dry your tears, and sew your heart back together. Do not give up.

Bravely declare that you have lost everything

Realizing what’s happening to you, probably for biological or sentimental reasons, may be even harder than the breakup itself. It’s not easy to recognize that you’ve reached the point where you need to respond in order to move on with your life. But you can, even if you don’t think you can, and when you do, the grieving process will come to an end and you’ll start to feel okay again.

It’s not easy to take control of the situation, but it’s a price to pay if you want to be stunned again by new opportunities. Get out of that vulnerable state of sleep and face your fear of acceptance. It will take a lot of effort, but I assure you it is worth it.

Julio Cortázar said that “nothing is lost if you are brave enough to proclaim that all is lost.” If you think about it, overcoming any emotional loss requires being brave enough to face reality. You will come closer to the light if you have the courage to seek it in the midst of all that darkness.

Grieve before starting a new relationship

We don’t often realize that the word “grief” isn’t just related to the death of a loved one; it is also related to the emotional, cognitive and physical shock resulting from a loss. In the case of a love affair, the steps you go through are the same as in other grieving cases, and how long the grieving process takes depends on the person.

• Denial: When a love relationship is broken, the person who didn’t want to break up will deny that they have lost their partner.

• Anger or indifference: Over time, the person will begin to acknowledge the breakup, but they may not understand it. This will evoke feelings of guilt, displeasure etc.
• Negotiation: The breakup has been acknowledged, but the person may still be thinking about solutions or ways to get back together.
• Pain: At this stage of the grieving process, the person has not been able to find a solution and is overwhelmed with grief. If the person is gradually unable to accommodate his grief, he should ask for help.
• Acceptance: The person has realized that there is no going back, and has come to love themselves again. He has accepted that it is necessary to forget the old relationship and create new memories.

Give yourself, and love, a second chance

After the acceptance phase of the breakup, you will be ready to try new things. This arduous journey will show you how important it is to find yourself, to learn from your mistakes, and above all, to find out what makes you happy. You have to love yourself so that you can love another again and so that the other can love you.

In this way you will give yourself a second chance, and you will give someone else a chance to stay and make your world a better place. You deserve to be pampered, you deserve affection. You may have to take a few steps back, but it won’t hurt anymore. You will look back in wonder at the past, with the brave look of a warrior.

Despite all the pain that love has caused you, you should never let bad experiences ruin the wonderful feeling. We were born to love, and while it really hurts sometimes, it really has nothing to do with pain. Allow yourself to get to know the best version of yourself with a new partner. If you are really ready, don’t let fear hold you back. Let it go, let it grow, and if it fails, always try again.