In Love I Want Wings To Fly And Roots To Grow

In any relationship, we should try to strike an adequate balance between what is mine and what is yours, be it a romantic relationship, a relationship with your children, or even a friendship.

It seems quite a complex process, but in reality the magic of any healthy and integrative human relationship is based on respect and giving the best for the other person, while taking care of ourselves at the same time.

Offering them wings to fly is making it possible for that loved one to choose his own spaces, cultivate his hobbies and develop every day to achieve personal fulfillment. If that person is happy with himself, he will pass that positive energy on to you. We create together, respecting each other’s spaces and necessities, while also taking root.

Taking root in our relationships in no way means “dominating” or “controlling”. Nurturing our roots means cultivating daily affection, respect and love to form a single unit. This is what unites us, it is the roots we have made together which in turn help us grow into two souls in one body.

“In love I want wings to fly and roots to grow.” While there are those who choose one dimension or the other on a personal level, true happiness in our social and emotional relationships can certainly be found in that “magic” balance.

Wings to fly and roots to grow in our relationships

Let’s start by talking about romantic relationships. We invite you to do a simple reflection. In the relationship you have now or in the past, were you able to develop as a person? Did you share bonds that gave you freedom as well as protection and support?

If not, if the relationship can’t develop over time as your needs change, the roots will weaken. Personal frustration will arise, a negative feeling that will eventually be reflected not only on yourself, but sometimes also on your partner.

In these cases we are talking about “disharmonic growth”. Here only the needs of one person have taken precedence or the relationship itself has remained motionless. Here an attempt has been made to grow roots by thinking only of the relationship itself and not of the personal growth of the individuals.

For example, we start a relationship full of emotions, of intense passion. We focus so much on each other that we leave all other friendships behind, to the point where we both hate coming out of that circle of intimacy we’ve created. Over time, these relationships become black holes that feed on themselves until they self-destruct.

It is very important that we keep these dimensions in mind to maintain an adequate balance:

1. Personal growth

• I have to be aware of myself, of the here and now and of what I need.
• I am responsible for my own personal growth.
• I need to be enriched by everything around me, by my daily experiences, by conversations, travelling, reading, by everything life has to offer me, including my partner.

2. Growth of the relationship

• My personal growth affects the growth of the relationship itself. If I am happy and satisfied with what I am and have, I will give all these positive emotions to the person I love.
• We must have a continuous dialogue about our growth, because every couple must reconsider their bonds as time goes by and new situations arise (the birth of children, changes or the loss of a job).
• We must maintain a balance between the individual and common goals and offer each other mutual help, which makes our roots grow and we also offer each other wings.

Wings to fly and roots to grow in children’s education

To raise happy children, you must offer them wings to fly, roots to return to, and the assurance that you are always there for them every step of the way towards becoming responsible and independent people.

We often talk about the need to avoid affections in order to enjoy emotional freedom. And it’s true that there are some poisonous affections that tie us to things in such a way that they eventually dominate us. However, it is important to understand that affections are also part of our own roots.

We refer to those healthy affections that children get with their families to create bonds. And unions generate security when we fill them with air, life and confidence so they can open their wings and fly wherever they want to go.

Wherever their hearts and desires lead them, the knowledge that they can always count on their roots provides them with a starting point and an eternal shelter. Therein lies the magic of the balance: in offering a love that makes them fly, while also growing.