Uncontrolled Anger Not Only Harms Yourself, But Also Others

We’ve all found ourselves in situations that upset us so much that our anger grew uncontrollably. Who has not experienced a simple spark that started a fire and spread all over our being? The worst part is that this uncontrolled anger causes us to say and do things that we later regret.

We not only feel bad about it, but also make the people around us feel bad. It often comes down to  hurting our loved ones in these kinds of situations . This happens even when they have nothing to do with the reason for our anger. We react angrily to our loved ones when they are trying to calm us down.

Anger and its implications

Let’s start at the beginning: what is anger? It is an emotion that arouses unpleasant feelings in the person who suffers from it. It causes the body to go from a state of rest to a state of high activation, so that it can respond with a defense or attack.

We feel it most often in interpersonal situations, or in other words, in our dealings with other people. When we feel that a valuable goal is being unjustly and deliberately hindered, we become angry.

At that point  , it feels like your interests are under threat and you need to take action to defend them. Anger is generally generated at a fairly low level of anxiety. But if this initial irritation is not managed effectively, this uncontrolled anger can grow until it finally explodes.

The tendency to often react anxiously to various circumstances has been shown to  have a significant impact on health. First, it elicits a series of unpleasant sensations in the person experiencing the anger. But it can also be a sign of an emotional disorder, such as depression.

In addition, it is a factor that should be taken into account in the treatment and rehabilitation of various neuropsychological problems, such as those associated with traumatic brain damage or alcoholism, as demonstrated in a study conducted by the University of Camilo José Cela.

Second  , it also affects various physical problems. Cardiovascular disease, cancer and ulcers are just a few examples.

How anger is perceived

Anger not only affects one’s physical and mental health, but  it also affects one’s social environment. Looking at it the other way around, how did you feel in the past when someone got angry and projected their anger onto you?

The answer can vary based on many different factors. For example, if you really were the one who was “responsible” for that person’s fear. And what strategies the person used to let you know they were angry. And whether he behaved in a reasonably peaceful manner or whether he immediately expressed extremely aggressive behavior towards you. These factors, as well as others, will affect the way you interpret the situation and, as a result, the emotions you experience.

Based on this information, it is important to remember that  the worse the anger spirals out of control and the more aggressive one’s behavior becomes, the more strongly the other person will feel that they are being attacked. This will also make the other person angry and have trouble controlling their anger. You can probably imagine the end result of this situation. Who hasn’t had a fight in which both thought the fight was for nothing, but the fight ended in an hurtful situation?

These kinds of situations can trigger a significant number of negative emotions in the other person, from sadness, own anger, to disbelief or helplessness. It can also evoke feelings of rejection. If you get into the habit of taking your anger out on others, you may even cause them to become more and more isolated from you and you will become increasingly lonely.

Is there a connection between the person I am and the fear I feel?

Fear, more than an emotion, can be seen as a consistent way of reacting to different situations. It could be part of who you are. This means that  some people naturally get angry more often than others. These people are more likely to react with anger to situations and with a high level of physical activation.

There are similarities between them and people who have a low predisposition to irritability with regard to the kinds of situations that make them angry, but the difference is that  they react with fear more often and more intensely to difficult circumstances in their daily lives.

Certain personality traits have been proven to  influence the appearance of anxiety:

• : hostile people show a negative attitude towards others. They tend to feel anger more often and react with aggressive behavior, with the aim of hurting others.
• :  Introverts say they feel anger more often than extroverts.
• : This refers to emotional instability. People who are more neurotic are more likely to experience anger.
• : Individuals with higher self-confidence in combination with a narcissistic personality are more likely to have a hot temper. They also show less control while expressing this emotion.

As you can see,  constant anger can have a lot of negative effects on one’s life. This means it’s important to keep it under control when the first spark appears, because once the fire has spread, it’s much harder to extinguish.

Also, once the anger has subsided and the level of activation has diminished, a range of negative emotions can still arise. You realize in that moment the consequences of your behavior and the damage you have done to your loved ones. So remember that if you deal with your anger when it’s still small and it doesn’t mix with your ego or your pride, you don’t need to heal deep wounds later on.