Can You Be Happily Single?
We are indoctrinated with the idea that a person is only complete when he or she has found a “other half”. Until recently it was even considered strange to be single at a certain age. Everyone from relatives to friends wanted to try and match the singles so that they would also get married and start a family. It never occurred to them that someone could also be happily single.
Today, this situation is changing. Being single is now seen more as a choice, rather than a taboo. More and more people are choosing to be and remain single, for example after a divorce.
But there is a difference between being single because you want to and being single when you really don’t want to. Someone who chooses to remain single has it easier, they don’t suffer from internal conflicts – they are happy with their situation. On the other hand, the people who are single but looking for a partner are dissatisfied, frustrated and powerless. These feelings can lead to a desperate search for the right person, or complete loneliness. Although they are constantly searching, they cannot find anyone to share their life with.
So, is it possible to be happily single? Can you be happy without having someone to share your life with? It depends on the relationship you have with yourself. Let’s take a closer look at this.
Change perspective
Regardless of whether your last relationship ended because of your choice or not, it doesn’t necessarily mean there was a problem or infidelity. We should definitely not jump into another relationship too soon. But when we’re with someone and we feel like we need to be with them all the time, we can develop emotional dependence. That’s why it’s healthy to take the time to learn how to process what we’ve been through.
Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is not a requirement to live, just as being single is not a punishment. We must keep this in mind despite all the contradictory messages we receive from the media, as well as our friends and family.
Being single is a great opportunity to get to know ourselves, connect with our feelings, and do all the things we stop doing when we’re in a relationship. Several studies have even shown that being single can lead to a greater sense of freedom and creativity.
In 2016, psychologist Bella DePaulo presented evidence that single people have more self-determination. They have a greater propensity for personal growth than married people. This means that being happily single is perfectly possible, and it even has benefits.
Being happy single and sad being single
On certain days you will feel happy, on other days you will feel sad. There will be weekends that consist of parties, and other weekends where you want to sit on the couch and watch TV. That’s life. Being single doesn’t mean you’ll always be happy, but it doesn’t mean you’ll always feel sad either.
Most of the stereotypes developed by society demand that we always be happy to prove that we don’t need anyone to feel “complete”. As a result, you may feel more pressure. It is also unrealistic and will make you fool yourself.
Since loneliness (and therefore being single) is considered an intimate enemy, it is important to find enough emotional balance to be happily single, despite having no one to share your life with and sleep with.
It’s normal for your mood to fluctuate, but we can’t feel guilty about being single. It is important to get to know your own emotions and to be open to what they want to tell us. And most importantly, whether or not they tell us to share our life with someone.
Being alone doesn’t mean you’re not complete
Social pressure can fool us. We claim we are happy, but when we are at home we cry or get mad at ourselves for not being married and not having children, as society expects us to do.
Logical thinking and years of psychological indoctrination lead us to believe that we are incomplete if we are not married. But finding a partner is no guarantee that you will be happy. We should not confuse the two. The dream of marriage, children, pets and a house is not always a dream. It won’t automatically make you happy. Happiness does not come from outside. It must come from within.
Enjoy the single life
The single life is full of magical moments, so don’t worry too much about whether or not you find that person who should make you complete.
Take advantage of this phase of your life by doing what you want to do, strengthening friendships, building your dream career, studying, going on vacation without worrying about other people’s plans, and all that sort of thing. . There are thousands of reasons why you can be happily single! The important thing is that you are your own main priority. You are Plan A.
Your single time should be spent getting to know yourself, using your talents, and improving as a person. Note: you are not preparing for someone else, but for your own life! When that special someone enters your life, he or she will meet the best version of you. If not, it doesn’t matter. You can keep yourself company.
