I Don’t Need Anyone’s Permission
I’m tired of people telling me what to do, or worse, having the nerve to tell me if what I’m doing is good or bad. It also makes me angry when someone tells me what I supposedly should have done, and that I should have done this or that. From now on I just do what I want and need to do, I don’t need anyone’s permission.
I find it super constructive when someone close to me tries to give me advice when I need help, or shares their opinion with me, as long as they don’t want to hurt me intentionally. But I no longer allow others to judge me or dictate for me how I should live my life, especially if they don’t know anything about it.
You can’t deny someone their autonomy
It is easy to question the choices of others, as everyone has their own unique way of acting and being. If someone has ever told you you’re special, they weren’t wrong. You are also special because you see and walk the world in your own way.
I have my own preferences, personal experiences and hierarchy of values, and they are absolutely no better than anyone else’s. No one knows better than I what I’ve been through, or what made me become and think this way, or how bad I feel when others criticize me for a little fun.
No one can deny me my autonomy, because we all have the right to be free, as long as we continue to respect each other. Every relationship, even the most intimate, is maintained by considering and understanding each other’s choices.
In other words, I’ve shared my life with people I really get along with because of who they really are inside, and that’s something that will never change. The people who love me know what I need, and they don’t pretend they have the right or the power to give me permission to provide it for myself. They don’t need to understand my motives, they just need to respect me with love.
Love is the most important lesson you can learn
The price you pay to try
Of course, there is a chance that I will sometimes be terribly wrong in making my own choices, but we are all born with the opportunity to make mistakes and the opportunity to learn from them. I’d rather pay the price to try it than sit in a corner wishing I could do it but can’t because I didn’t get anyone’s permission.
I have finally come to realize that I have the final say on how I will explore the world. If I want to try something, I have every freedom to do so. That is, I am willing to endure an emotional wound that will leave a scar on me that will never go away. I want to be the only one responsible for that.
If I don’t do this and allow myself to be convinced by others, I may not get hurt, but I will suffer regret. Day after day I will regret that I was not brave enough to defend myself and fight for my own interests.
Tomorrow only I will feel the effect of what I do with my life
If you have strong values and ideas, fight for them. Turn your back on judgments and criticism if they don’t add anything useful to your life. After all, you can only give meaning to the things you do by acting on what you feel inside.
It is true that it hurts in the moment when someone meddles in things that really don’t concern him at all. In the future, however, only you will be able to remember the consequences of your actions. Other people will just share their opinion and judge you and then just forget about it.
You don’t have enough time to waste some of it doing things you don’t really want to do but do because others say you have to. You don’t have enough time to feel bad because someone else thinks you’re making the wrong choices. In short, you don’t have enough time to hold yourself back and not give yourself the chance to look for what you need and not experience it because you didn’t get permission from anyone to do this.
You can’t control the time
Images Courtesy of Pascal Campion
