Many Will Love You For Who You Are, Others Will Envy You
A lot of people will love you for who you are and what you do, but there will also be people who will hate you for exactly those reasons. Envy rears its ugly head. We have to get used to this, because it often characterizes the dynamics in those relationships where we are the ones who are successful at something.
It is impossible to like everyone equally, and it is equally impossible to be liked by everyone. Therefore, we must be aware that there will be plenty of times when the light we emit will simply be unpleasant for some people. The great things that make us who we are will create darkness in others. These people may well be dealing with a hidden desire in their lives that they feel has been denied them in some way.
The people who love you for who you are make you shine
The true guardian angels are those people who appear at certain times in our lives to give us light, allowing us to shine and eliminate the fissures that hide and obscure our true selves or do not do justice to our true virtues. In moments like this, it’s not our words that matter, but the facts. The facts surround us with their magic and make our reality sparkle with their wonders, enabling us to see how much we are worth, right when it seemed like our lives were going nowhere.
Everyone has their own spark, something that touches us and makes us special, something that gives us the ability to offer the world a part of this specialness. There will be people who are good at their job, people who can love in a certain way, and people who are good at several things at once, making them all unique.
But as we said before, there will also be people who want to extinguish our light, that bright sparkle that makes us special and defines us as a person. Sometimes it will be difficult to deal with this, but only we can give validity to the intentions of other people in our lives.
The Demon of Envy
Envy is not 100% unhealthy, as long as it is not accompanied by harmful and malicious acts (towards both others and ourselves). Healthy envy can lead us to the things we really want. Thus, it gives us hints about the road we would prefer to follow.
However, envy becomes harmful when we give in to its spell, thereby undermining our own self-confidence. This usually makes us fall into the trap of unfortunate comparisons, and sometimes we turn this greed into a vicious attack designed to imprison the subject of our hidden admiration.
Envy is sometimes accompanied by other feelings, such as hatred, directed at the person who arouses and magnifies the envy and frustration. This can cause us to judge the talent and success of others, and engage in behavior that would harm others.
We often pay more attention to the motive behind the envy in the envious person than to judge how it affects the person being envied. We must not forget that others envy us for things that make us shine, and that this causes great suffering and distances us from reality and generates mistrust.
It is no coincidence that the people who excel at something often feel alone in the world, when in fact they are surrounded by all kinds of people. It is therefore not surprising that it is difficult to distinguish between true friends and fake friends, between the people who want something for us and the people who envy us.
Likewise, this can make us question whether our success or our light really belongs to us, or whether it is a mirage that we really don’t deserve. This usually creates a long series of insecurities and regrets that obscure our virtues. The evil that comes from envy can be overcome by strengthening positive self-confidence. In this sense, we must not forget that there will be circumstances or events that will arouse the urge for comparison, but that we should not be overshadowed by this.
Each should nurture his own virtues without undermining the virtues of others, abandoning unhealthy envy and encouraging the very things that are constructive, and this is simply our ability to admire others and grow with them.
